There have been lot of
heat waves pouring from all nooks and corners of our Indian society
condemning the brutality of the gang rape and murder of a young
paramedical student in Delhi. There have been innumerous candle
marches, silent protests, agitated rallies followed by speeches and
comments by our politicians. The incidence is horrific indeed raising
your hair to its end and the least we can wish is that no other girl
is afflicted to such a trauma. But may I know, is this the very first
incident happened in our country where a girl instead of being
treated as a human was treated as a commodity to be devoured
voraciously. There are innumerable cases which are happening in and
around us but are not surfacing up lest of fear, humiliation and the
emotional suffering the victim is subjected to post the heinous
crime. A girl's morality and attire are questioned and she is made to
bear the brunt for whatever she is subjected to, possibly justifying
her anguish. I am certainly not making a claim that outrageous
outfits will not provoke culprits' minds but sticking to one's
modesty is not going to help either.
While we are demanding
death penalty or castration in such cases and persistently blaming
police and the judiciary for inaction, what good are we as a society
to offer in such cases, have we ever given a thought over this?
Apart from the chantings and slogans, we really as a society have
much more to do. Let us all introspect ourselves and question us
silently the way we have treated a girl, just like any other human
being or an item of savory. Being a boy do you have guts to accept
your girlfriend or marry her if her morality has been victimized? Can
you accept and let your daughter stay with you in your family despite
what she has faced. If you are a lady will you like to have such a
daughter in law? Will you as a mother confide in your daughter in
such a situation? Its high time that we as a society should stop
considering it as a social stigma which has to labelled on the girl
for an entire life being a rape victim. Let us change the perspective
and stop calling her a victim, whatever happens to her is a
misfortune and let us not trouble that innocent soul by throwing her
out of the society or blaming her for the act. Then only the girls
will have guts to speak up and come up against the atrocities they
suffer. Let us make this society a more friendly place for each and
everyone to live in. I agree to the fact that every girl must get
training so that she can protect herself from the obtrusive evils of
the society. However I really do not hope or aim of a traditional
civilized Bharat of satyug against the current modern India , as we
have to accept the changes with which we are moving ahead. The
changes in terms of culture, attire and ethics are meant for a social
raise and not downfall. Without hurting the religious sentiments of
any, even Rama in satyug had cross questioned the purity of Sita who
left all the royal pleasures just to be with her beloved husband. She
was forcefully abducted by Ravana and Rama asked her to prove her
purity and chastity by passing the agni-pareeksha. More than Rama being maryada purushottam it was Sita who was maryada Stree-uttam I would definitely say..How many of you
would like to torment your wives/ girlfriends to agni-pareekshas just
because some Ravana forces and rapes them for her only mistake that
she is physically weaker than the abducter, is now my question to all
my male friends.
